TO MALES

Thank You for introducing us to the Global Culture where females are standing up for Brutal Rape & Murder of a Female Trainee Doctor in the Seminar Room of her own department after serving for 36 long hours at a medical college in Kolkata (India)

Considered to be The Most Noble Profession, a person in a Most Vulnerable Situation – FEMALE + MEDICAL TRAINEE – We are sure she would have only known about the EXPECTATIONS from her, until she lived and had to depart this world not by her choice.

We want to convey to you, None of Us are Okay.

We also want to share with you that we do not need shoulders to cry, we have our own to rest upon, because we have understood, it would be difficult for males to understand a female, we do not share the same thinking pattern.

And hence, we would like to clarify certain things. You may like it or like it not – WE WOULD HAVE NEVER NEEDED PROTECTION IF MALES WOULD NOT HAVE EXISTED!

You have no idea, when you say “Please explain” or “What do you mean by that” it gives us immense pain.

Just like you, we are evolving with time, talking through things, do not necessarily make us feel relieved. We need concrete solutions because challenges we face from you are concrete.

WE DEMAND A SOCIETY WHERE WE WOULD NOT HAVE TO ASK FOR WHAT WE WANT

Think about us possibly settling down into your stereotyped Ideal Woman Role ONLY WHEN you have the capability of fitting into our preconceived Ideal Male Role.

We need professional respect, sexually charged jokes are not welcomed.

Many of us have tried to step into your shoes, walking the walk you walk, to learn your way of communication. (that is when we are laughing at your unjustified jokes on us)

We feel ashamed to demand equal status and respect because we believe that we are HUMAN BEINGS, INEQUALITY is in YOUR MIND, not ours’. Please don’t expect us to speak the language of inequality.

We are very clear about what are acceptable behaviours versus unacceptable behaviours.

Please do not expect us to accept gender roles that we fulfil in our personal lives to be directly translated in professional lives (e.g. – we are not going to oversee catering services or food availability at offices)

We are very clear, the way we are treated by our COLLEAGUES is forwarded up and down the ladder of hierarchy.

Believe us, we are not comfortable disclosing much about us, because down the years we have learnt, more you know about us, more unsafe we are (obvious reason is that you have information to manipulate)

Thanks to you, our mothers have been advising us since childhood to be always alert and vigilant about our surroundings, even while asleep.

We want our teachers to know, we have the same right to learn and practice to earn as a male child has and subsequently expect the same amount of renumeration for the output that we have in the professional life.

Please do not decide appropriate place for us in the social or professional structure, we all are provided with the intellect to select that for us.

Stop addressing us as daughters or using terms like justice for daughters/mother/sister ---- That boils our blood down. Do you want to say this type of act is permissible for your partners????

If you have ever not stood up for your female colleagues, then please stop using such words and stop DEMONSTRATING concerns--- to us it looks like chameleons are dancing over the beat of the situation.

We are not confused. Yes, we are complaining that we wanted your support so that it did not culminate into what it has now, but THE TIME has gone, and now that we ask for it and when granted, we are not able to tolerate that --- it reminds us continuously of your delayed response.

JUST LET US BE! SORRY YOUR DEFINITION OF JUSTICE DOES NOT SYNC WITH OUR DEFINITION OF JUSTICE

Don’t ask us what hurts? Because that hurts the MOST.

It hurts when we need to HIGHLIGHT the essential basic needs in our conversations.

And if you may allow us to say please, sorry but YOUR PRESENCE HURTS!

We are HAPPY WITH OURSELVES! But we are NOT OK WITH YOU!

None of us can breathe since this incident happened. You may ask any random female besides you.

None of us can sleep either!

We are all aware when you are sizing us up! We don’t let you know because we know it is going to fall on deaf ears.

None of us are missing male partners, when in deep pain like this, we just need space.

There is a strong determination from within, we don’t need you.

We are teaching our daughters in 21st century as soon as they mature to 3-5 years of age, what it means to be a Girl and what role the society has carved for you, and our heart is crying, when we do that.

You have no idea, when you label this incident as violent, how it feels. If we are thrown in front of wild animals, they can eat us up, that is violent attack, but when we are thrown under your scrutiny, it is more than violence. Your minimization of facts makes us furious and adding adjectives like heinous burns our hearts to ashes.

When you beat us up, just to satisfy your male ego, that is violence, please do not describe this as mere violence. It has ripped our souls apart.

Even the harsh nature embraces us. We feel safe in extremes of mother nature but not your presence. You are no more natural to us, your presence is no more natural for us.

Don’t try to protect us at midnight, the night soothes us, only if there is NO YOU.

We are feeling ashamed that in 21st century, we are demanding physical protection from physical threats created by your corrupted minds.

It’s time to make sections for Men’s Mental Health and not Women's Mental Health. We believe just like women's health was exclusively the responsibility of females, men’s health should be predominantly taken up by males.

Remember NOT YOURS,
(We belong with us)
FEMALES