Parents are just imperfect people. Maybe your Dad will come around in the weeks/months/years ahead. If not, respect him and move on. At some point, you have to stop being concerned with what others think even if it is a parent.
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Megan aka pebbles
8 years ago
Blessings
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Cj Federico
8 years ago
You got this, Damon! :)
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Vik
8 years ago
as someone who has been struggling with their gender all their life, including in my teens, having family who supported me wouldve helped a lot. i hope you get the support you need damon.
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Kenneth Stephens
8 years ago
I'm FtM as well. I've known since I was around 13. Knew something was wrong since maybe 10 or 11, but didn't know what to make of it until I was 13. I only started transition a couple of years ago (I'm 26 now), and I regret not starting sooner.
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Amanda Harris
8 years ago
Live your life the way you feel is right and don't let anyone take your true identity from you.
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Eric S
8 years ago
Transition is not a phase. It is a necessity to get everyone else to see you as you are. The next time someone tells you its a phase, have them go through this mental exercise:
Who is someone you hate? Like, really, truly despise, want nothing to do with, never want in the same room as you? Got someone in mind? Good. Because according to everyone around you, you look exactly like that person. They will call you that person's name all the time, then not understand why you get so upset about it. They will treat you as if things that person has done are things you did, then get upset when you say it isn't true. How can it not be true, you look just like that person, obviously you're at least related!
That is how every misgendered, deadname trans person feels when someone who knows better continues to misgendered and deadname them. That feeling of disgust, rage, and depression happens every time you use the wrong pronouns, or the wrong name, or out them through those actions.
If that mental exercise doesn't get them to stop and think, very little else will, and they may not be worth your energy anymore. It will suck (it always does!) but you will be healthier and happier when you focus on you, and not on them. Chin up my dude, you got this!
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Zerk
8 years ago
I was *not* able to transition in my youth, and spent a lot of money, time, and energy trying to make up for lost time.
In today's competitive and challenging economy, we owe it to our trans children to give them every chance to secure their feature by getting their social, documentation, and medical needs taken care of before they start building their adult lives.
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Anonymous
8 years ago
Ive been out as trans since freshman year of high school, 21 now, transitioning is the greatest thing ive ever done for myself ! good luck bud
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Jonah
8 years ago
Good luck little dude. They'll come around.
You could try asking your father how he'd feel, if he grew up as a girl. Then say "that's how I feel" lol. That's what I did.
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Jaiden Torres
8 years ago
good luck man
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Ariana
8 years ago
You have every right to be who you are. Transition is the medically accepted treatment for dysphoria, and those who love you should support you on your path. Good luck little dude!
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Anonymous
8 years ago
I'm also FTM! Good luck, it's a hard but necessary road.
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Anonymous
8 years ago
(Am AFAB) Knew I was a boy when I was a kid, but didn't have the language to express it until I was in my 20s. Now almost 30, and am still a boy lol. This shiz don't go away yo.
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Meka Jones
8 years ago
Best of luck dude!
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Khy Mustang
8 years ago
Good luck man!
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DANIEL BERNARD
8 years ago
You are valid
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Daniel
8 years ago
Good luck!!!
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Anonymous
8 years ago
Good luck, Damon. My parents were the same way, and still are at times (I came out half way through freshman year, and now I'm a junior). I think the most important thing is to talk to them about it. I was afraid to, and this hampered progress.
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Blaire
8 years ago
If your son makes a petition to encouraging you to validate his identity, it's probably not a phase. Rarely is this kind of thing a phase anyway, and even if it was, it's not going to hurt anyone if you use his pronouns, etc. I know it's a big adjustment to make. See if there's a local pflag near you for support, or even see a trans friendly therapist as a family!
Parents are just imperfect people. Maybe your Dad will come around in the weeks/months/years ahead. If not, respect him and move on. At some point, you have to stop being concerned with what others think even if it is a parent.
Blessings
You got this, Damon! :)
as someone who has been struggling with their gender all their life, including in my teens, having family who supported me wouldve helped a lot. i hope you get the support you need damon.
I'm FtM as well. I've known since I was around 13. Knew something was wrong since maybe 10 or 11, but didn't know what to make of it until I was 13. I only started transition a couple of years ago (I'm 26 now), and I regret not starting sooner.
Live your life the way you feel is right and don't let anyone take your true identity from you.
Transition is not a phase. It is a necessity to get everyone else to see you as you are. The next time someone tells you its a phase, have them go through this mental exercise: Who is someone you hate? Like, really, truly despise, want nothing to do with, never want in the same room as you? Got someone in mind? Good. Because according to everyone around you, you look exactly like that person. They will call you that person's name all the time, then not understand why you get so upset about it. They will treat you as if things that person has done are things you did, then get upset when you say it isn't true. How can it not be true, you look just like that person, obviously you're at least related! That is how every misgendered, deadname trans person feels when someone who knows better continues to misgendered and deadname them. That feeling of disgust, rage, and depression happens every time you use the wrong pronouns, or the wrong name, or out them through those actions. If that mental exercise doesn't get them to stop and think, very little else will, and they may not be worth your energy anymore. It will suck (it always does!) but you will be healthier and happier when you focus on you, and not on them. Chin up my dude, you got this!
I was *not* able to transition in my youth, and spent a lot of money, time, and energy trying to make up for lost time. In today's competitive and challenging economy, we owe it to our trans children to give them every chance to secure their feature by getting their social, documentation, and medical needs taken care of before they start building their adult lives.
Ive been out as trans since freshman year of high school, 21 now, transitioning is the greatest thing ive ever done for myself ! good luck bud
Good luck little dude. They'll come around. You could try asking your father how he'd feel, if he grew up as a girl. Then say "that's how I feel" lol. That's what I did.
good luck man
You have every right to be who you are. Transition is the medically accepted treatment for dysphoria, and those who love you should support you on your path. Good luck little dude!
I'm also FTM! Good luck, it's a hard but necessary road.
(Am AFAB) Knew I was a boy when I was a kid, but didn't have the language to express it until I was in my 20s. Now almost 30, and am still a boy lol. This shiz don't go away yo.
Best of luck dude!
Good luck man!
You are valid
Good luck!!!
Good luck, Damon. My parents were the same way, and still are at times (I came out half way through freshman year, and now I'm a junior). I think the most important thing is to talk to them about it. I was afraid to, and this hampered progress.
If your son makes a petition to encouraging you to validate his identity, it's probably not a phase. Rarely is this kind of thing a phase anyway, and even if it was, it's not going to hurt anyone if you use his pronouns, etc. I know it's a big adjustment to make. See if there's a local pflag near you for support, or even see a trans friendly therapist as a family!