I am a 34 yr old parent of 3 children and i am non binary. But i would like to talk to you about the future that you are setting up for your son. My ex husband is ftm, and so is my fiance now. The difference between the two is that my ex was not taken seriously and his parents where either neglectful or abusive due to his gender identity, while my fiance's mother was and is supportive. My ex has battlled drugs, alcohol and was highly abusive towards me and my children. He finds it hard to relate to people, and can't hold a job. He fights an internal battle with the left over voices in his head put their by his violent father and cold mother... However, my fiance is in management at a bakery, and helps me with our small business. He is loving and gentle, empathetic and caring. I emplore you as a parent to step up to the plate and be the support your child needs. We have enough hate in this world and if you don't show him how to love, he will fall for abusers... Or worse, become one. Please consider my story. Please research and reach out to the pflagg branch in your area. This may all be very hard to understand, but the effort we put into our children does pay off. They become happier, healthier people. And that all begins at home.
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Jax
8 years ago
Follow your heart ❤
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Mx Margaret D Jones
8 years ago
I don't believe gender is entirely a social construct, it's probably more to do with how the brain develops before birth. Trans people and Enbies are real!
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JareMicah Byron Schmidt
8 years ago
Amab genderfluid person here. I hope your father and mother open up to you and in time you get the life you deserve.
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Sam
8 years ago
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I know it's a very scary place to imagine your son living in, but you have the power to make it so much easier for him. It's hard to know where to start but you can research and he can tell you what the process of HRT is like and what you can do to support him. Love and peace to your family.
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Aidan Stidolph
8 years ago
I am also FTM, and I'm so proud of you for standing your ground on who you are.
To the parent(s) involved - Please understand that being trans is not easy at all. It's far too much to go through just for attention, especially when most of the attention received is extremely hurtful. I, for one, would not have chosen this. If I had been able to choose, I would have just been born male. Please think back to your own childhood. When you were young, how did you know which hand was your dominant hand? How did you know what foods you liked or disliked? You knew because it just felt right. The things that didn't fit you felt wrong. Age does not invalidate those fundamental truths that make up who we are. I've known since I was old enough to tell my parents "I'm not a tomboy, I'm just a boy!"
Damon, I wish you all the best. Keep being you ❤
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Noni
8 years ago
hang in there Damon, I hope your family can recognise and support you
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Canvas Brieva
8 years ago
You go, Damon. I'm transgender too and non-binary. You do you, and know that there are always people who love and support you!
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Elizabeth Milner
8 years ago
Dear Damon's family - love means accepting a person just as they are. Accepting means showing through your actions that you are there to support them, not just spouting words. Supporting means showing respect by using the names/pronouns requested, asking respectful questions if you don't understand something, and educating yourself. You love your child. You accept your child. Now show him that you support him, too. We do!
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Sarah Gohn
8 years ago
You are valid and loved!! ❤️
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Ness Foster
8 years ago
Hi I hope this helps, and I hope you know that there is always people there for you that believe in you even if we are strangers.
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Krystal Tomkins
8 years ago
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Trans isn't a trend. More visibility can make it seem like it's becoming more and more common, but that's because people feel safer to come out. Your son felt safe enough to come out to you and for that you should feel proud, now he needs your support to get through his transition.
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Alex
8 years ago
Be true to who you are and never stop - nothing is more important than being happy.
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Lucifer
8 years ago
Stay strong Damon! I came out as demiboy when I was 15, I'm 17 now and I figure my family is exactly like yours: accepting but is ignorant/doesn't act. You're not alone in this struggle my dude, keep being yourself and show your family that they're wrong!
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Leslie
8 years ago
What your doing is great!! I wish I had as much courage as you! (:
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Anonymous
8 years ago
A lot of us knew even in high school.
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Katie
8 years ago
hi!!! your story is so cute and I really hope u prove to ur family who u really are! have a great rest of your day!!
- a non binary person
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Jay
8 years ago
My bro, you got this.
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Minty
8 years ago
OwO
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Peach
8 years ago
Keep rocking dude!
Love ur friendly neighborhood nonbinary kid
I am a 34 yr old parent of 3 children and i am non binary. But i would like to talk to you about the future that you are setting up for your son. My ex husband is ftm, and so is my fiance now. The difference between the two is that my ex was not taken seriously and his parents where either neglectful or abusive due to his gender identity, while my fiance's mother was and is supportive. My ex has battlled drugs, alcohol and was highly abusive towards me and my children. He finds it hard to relate to people, and can't hold a job. He fights an internal battle with the left over voices in his head put their by his violent father and cold mother... However, my fiance is in management at a bakery, and helps me with our small business. He is loving and gentle, empathetic and caring. I emplore you as a parent to step up to the plate and be the support your child needs. We have enough hate in this world and if you don't show him how to love, he will fall for abusers... Or worse, become one. Please consider my story. Please research and reach out to the pflagg branch in your area. This may all be very hard to understand, but the effort we put into our children does pay off. They become happier, healthier people. And that all begins at home.
Follow your heart ❤
I don't believe gender is entirely a social construct, it's probably more to do with how the brain develops before birth. Trans people and Enbies are real!
Amab genderfluid person here. I hope your father and mother open up to you and in time you get the life you deserve.
I know it's a very scary place to imagine your son living in, but you have the power to make it so much easier for him. It's hard to know where to start but you can research and he can tell you what the process of HRT is like and what you can do to support him. Love and peace to your family.
I am also FTM, and I'm so proud of you for standing your ground on who you are. To the parent(s) involved - Please understand that being trans is not easy at all. It's far too much to go through just for attention, especially when most of the attention received is extremely hurtful. I, for one, would not have chosen this. If I had been able to choose, I would have just been born male. Please think back to your own childhood. When you were young, how did you know which hand was your dominant hand? How did you know what foods you liked or disliked? You knew because it just felt right. The things that didn't fit you felt wrong. Age does not invalidate those fundamental truths that make up who we are. I've known since I was old enough to tell my parents "I'm not a tomboy, I'm just a boy!" Damon, I wish you all the best. Keep being you ❤
hang in there Damon, I hope your family can recognise and support you
You go, Damon. I'm transgender too and non-binary. You do you, and know that there are always people who love and support you!
Dear Damon's family - love means accepting a person just as they are. Accepting means showing through your actions that you are there to support them, not just spouting words. Supporting means showing respect by using the names/pronouns requested, asking respectful questions if you don't understand something, and educating yourself. You love your child. You accept your child. Now show him that you support him, too. We do!
You are valid and loved!! ❤️
Hi I hope this helps, and I hope you know that there is always people there for you that believe in you even if we are strangers.
Trans isn't a trend. More visibility can make it seem like it's becoming more and more common, but that's because people feel safer to come out. Your son felt safe enough to come out to you and for that you should feel proud, now he needs your support to get through his transition.
Be true to who you are and never stop - nothing is more important than being happy.
Stay strong Damon! I came out as demiboy when I was 15, I'm 17 now and I figure my family is exactly like yours: accepting but is ignorant/doesn't act. You're not alone in this struggle my dude, keep being yourself and show your family that they're wrong!
What your doing is great!! I wish I had as much courage as you! (:
A lot of us knew even in high school.
hi!!! your story is so cute and I really hope u prove to ur family who u really are! have a great rest of your day!! - a non binary person
My bro, you got this.
OwO
Keep rocking dude! Love ur friendly neighborhood nonbinary kid