Child Support Laws Are Unfair For Men
Like many other fathers in the world I pay child support. I see fathers are bearing the burden of paying lots of money to their children without any proof of what the money is being spent on. I have no problem with paying child support. But how do I know the money is really being spent on my child. Are we fathers supposed to take the word of our childs mother no! does the court system take our word when we say we paided no! they want to see proof. Why is the burden of proof on the male and not the female are we all not equal. I purpose that a type of debit credit card is invented so that the childs money can monitored by someone. also I purpose that statments are sent to the childs father every month to ensure the childs father that the money is being spent on the child and not the childs mother. I also suppose that if the mother does not spend all the money for that child in that month the money should be returned to the father.
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9 months agoD Ledger United States9 months ago
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1 year agoBrad Cole United States1 year ago
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Anonymous
May 22, 2016
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May 22, 2016
May 22, 2016
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Brad Cole
United States, Canton
Apr 29, 2016
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Apr 29, 2016
I have all the same support costs as my ex, I provide a home, food, clothes, toys, etc. I have my son 3-4 days a week, I want to be able to give him the best life I can. She has a husband to help her, I have no one. Why should I have to kill myself working so much trying to afford to support my kids myself and paying to help her support them, when she doesnt work, sits on her butt all day, receives food stamps to cover groceries and has a husband to pay bills. Her financial burden on me is not fair, especially when she is the one that cheated on me and left me. Let me support my kids at my home and live my life with out having to pay her bills too.
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James Williams
United States, Newton Falls
Mar 01, 2016
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Mar 01, 2016
To whom it may concern,
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Victoria
United States, Spring Hill
Dec 28, 2015
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Dec 28, 2015
Fix these laws! Justice for dads!!!! You've approved gay marriage it's time to approve justice for fathers!!
See More 4To whom it may concern,
I am a loving and dedicated Father of two beautiful, healthy, intelligent, and sensitive five-year-old girls whose mother I am no longer with. I am also the father of their older sister, who is similarly healthy and happy. She is nine. I pay child support to my first daughter's Mom, even though she earns more money than I do. She is a highly effective, intelligent, well organized woman, and although our marriage didn't work, I have a great deal of respect for her as our Daughter's Parent. The Mother of my twins by contrast is one of the most resistant, entitled and irresponsible people I have ever known. She refuses to find work, and lives off a series of benefactors she has lined up.
The lives of each of my children were prayed for by me before they were conceived, and no man is more blessed than me to be a father. My children's Moms prayed right along with me.
It is utterly confusing to me as to why I am being required to pay child support that I cannot afford to the Mother of my twins. They are in my home half the time, and I am willing to have them here more often, although I do support them having a relationship with their mother.
In the posts I have read of people's opinions of child support laws and outcomes, it seems that whatever the expressed perspective is, the common sentiment is that the support of the children is a shared responsibility. Why am I supporting a mother who refuses to support herself and our children when they are in my home half the time?
The financial burden to me is excruciatingly uncomfortable, and I simply cannot afford it.
Please re-evaluate the child support laws to accommodate Fathers who are in fact highly effective, responsible, loving, and dedicated Parents. We should not be subject to the same protocols that fathers who are avoiding responsibility are.
Thank you for your timely consideration of this issue.
Please consider the thirteenth amendment to the constitution of the United States.
I am James Williams, father of two daughters who deserve better than what they have been given by their mother and the situation they have been forced into by the system.
Time is running out for both them and I, as I have a pending court date for child support. At issue is the fact that I have ALWAYS supported my daughters, whether court ordered or not. This has never been in question by my daughters or anyone who knows them or me. I have them at my home several days per week, usually two full days and two partial days. Often, though, it is more. During the summer months and school vacations, they are often picked up by me from their mother’s residence the afternoon school lets out and dropped back off at their mother’s the evening before classes resume.
In spite of paying child support for eight years, I also provided the things child support should have provided for my daughters, both at my own home and for them when at their mother's. Clothing, food, school supplies, birthday and Christmas presents, everything. Meanwhile, my child support dollars went, instead, to buy cell phones, video games, alcohol, tobacco and frequent visits to night clubs or bars for Mrs. Kovach. She obviously views it as my duty to support her, rather than our daughters. She has even gone so far as to nearly demand that I purchase beer for her and her live-in boyfriend on my way to drop the girls off. No mention, however, of anything Jocelynn or Kayleigh might need. Just beer for her and the boyfriend.
Despite this, upon being laid off last year, I went to the Child Support Agency office in Ravenna where I was told that paying half per month would keep me above board until I could get back on my feet. This, of course, was false and the employee who told me this has denied it since. My driver's license has been suspended, further inhibiting my ability to earn income to replace that lost last year.
Again, going to the Child Support Agency, I sought to have my payments reduced. Please keep in mind that I was materially supporting my daughters, as well as paying child support to their mother. The financial burden was severe and I sought to ease it while maintaining my support of them. Instead, my payment amount was increased to the agency “feeling” that I was capable of making more money than I currently am. It is not at all comforting to know that governmental offices are run by “feeling”.
During this time I have been earning money repairing vintage and high-end audio equipment. This has been sufficient to support myself and daughters. It is not enough, however, to support my daughters twice. Once by child support and again directly when the money is spent on other things by their mother.
While the pressing issue seems to be one of money and child support, that is merely a symptom of being taken to task by the legal system. The true issue has been, and should remain, doing what is best for my daughters. My daughters no longer wish to live with their mother, due to abuse and neglect. I and others have reported incidents to Children's Services, but nothing has been done. When they do show up, it is only after lengthy warning by phone and she is given time to put on a good show for them.
In spite of Mrs. Kovach having custody and receiving child support, it is I who take them to doctor and dentist appointments, school meetings, Children's Advantage, eye doctor appointments, parent/teacher conferences, etc. There are several reasons for this, including outright refusal on her part to do so, unwillingness of others to deal with her aggressive and unstable behavior and inability of the school to contact her due to her refusal to update emergency contact information.
This is merely a brief summary of the grief that my girls have been subjected to. Trying to shield them as much as I can from the chaos has worn me down and I am seeking any help you may be able to provide.
Thank you for any possible assistance,
James Williams