So I have decided to tell my story, now that I am in a safe location, away from my ex partner & she is unaware of said location.

I left my wife, Sophie Morris, in December 2022, after years of dealing with controlling, cohesive behaviour & drug/alcohol abuse. Things finally came to a head after losing my cousin & my mother, within months of each other, & my ex partners complete lack of support during those events made me finally see I needed to leave her.
I treated us to a holiday to Dubai & The Philippines, to have a mental break from my grief, where she was continuously drunk & hauling abuse at me for the full two weeks.

Little did I know then that she would try to control me for over 2 years afterwards. Hacking my phone, my social media, turning my location settings on, contacting my future partners, attending my property drunk, blackmailing me for money for drugs & threatening to have me beaten up.

I begged her family to speak to her & get her to leave me alone.
After this didn’t work, I contacted North Yorkshire police a shocking FIVE times, over a few months, to no avail. This took so much courage & I was met with such a dismissive attitude that I still to this day, will never understand why?
The first two times at Fulford police station I was simply told to “get a new phone”, Which I told them I had, I actually replaced my phone FOUR times, changed my phone number & email address. Which I did tell the officer on reception.
The third time I visited the station, at last someone decided to take a statement, as I was hysterical.
On the 3rd October 2023, an officer was then due to come out and speak to me. My ex partner then attempted to get me to cancel this appointment as I had stupidly told her about this in the hopes that it would protect me from her. I remember clearly what the officer said to me, when I called 111 to cancel, “statistically stalking & harassment gets worse, it’s doesn’t get better” and he convinced me to keep the appointment. I feel that was the only officer that took my concerns seriously.
PC Prior then attended my home address, she took a statement & I did say I wanted it logging incase things got worse, they DID get worse, much worse!! (I am still in receipt of the crime reference number for this appointment).

My ex partner then came to my address on the 9th October 2023, a mere SIX DAYS LATER, after my police report & attempted to attack me during an argument where I had confronted her with photographic evidence of her hacking my social media, whilst she was in Puerto Rico. She didn’t deny the hacking, her response was “you don’t even know where fucking Puerto Rico is!” Further gaslighting me. My location settings were permanently off on all my social media, for obvious reasons.

I’ve never been to Puerto Rico & was away supporting a client, on holiday at the time, as I was a Support Worker.
I realise in hindsight that you should never confront an abuser but I was at my wits end & felt that now a friend had given me evidence, I had some proof after the months & months of anguish wondering how she knew where I was, what I was doing & who I was talking to, at all times.
I then had to go into hiding again. Shortly after, moving in with a friend for year, for my own safety.


Further communication with the police seemed pointless as they refused to listen to me, despite me being in regular contact with PC Oliver Warren & emailing him weekly with further evidence.
Which was ignored.
I provided emails from her work email address sending abuse, blackmailing me for £9000, £7000, then £5000, messages sent to other people saying she was going to “kick my head in”, even when she was spotted outside where I resided, waiting in her car on several occasions, it was still ignored.

It does beg the question that if my ex partner had been a man, would the police have taken my pleas for help more seriously?
Domestic abuse in lesbian couples is actually the highest levels out of ALL sexualities.
Something that police need to be made aware of.

I have had numerous apologies from NYP regarding the endless mistakes that were made & I have put in several complaints but this has not helped my situation in the slightest.

The sad thing is that I barely left the house that year. And then my 18 year old daughter passed away suddenly.
I should have been spending time with her doing memorable things, not hiding from my ex partner. Sadly, I will never get that time back.
This is why NYP need to take stalking seriously.
The detrimental & physiological toll it takes on a person, is hard to explain, unless you have been through it.
Yes, I fully understand that the police deal with violent crimes regularly and to them this may of seemed insignificant, at the time, but it WASN’T!
And my concerns were justified, it could have all been dealt with before it escalated further.

When my daughter died, my ex partner used her death to contact me. Continually phoning me off her mother’s Facebook & trying to contact me through my friends, even though there was police involvement preventing her from doing so, legally.
She asked me what was happening with my daughter’s trust fund, a few days after her death.
She drove to the house where I resided, under the influence of alcohol, & also convinced me to give her money.
She told me she wanted to support me & would come with me to see my daughter at the funeral directors, to help me process her sudden death. Then when I said I wouldn’t give her any more funds she then refused to attend. Taking away my choice of seeing my child for the last time.
And yes, I shouldn’t have seen her during that time but I was such a mess emotionally, I didn’t even know which way was up.

I have had to leave my home, my few remaining family that are left & all my friends to protect myself, where the police couldn’t.
This is extreme levels but my ex partner continues to try to contact me through third parties.

When I initially disappeared, the police even lied to my friends to say they had spoken to me and I was safe.
I have had no police contact whatsoever, since leaving York, and I am certainly NOT safe.
It’s utterly disgusting and has made me lose all faith in the police & justice system.


I look back and realise I should have done many things differently but I can’t go back in time. I can see things clearly now & no longer blame myself for what happened.

A friend once said, “you can’t rationalise with someone that’s not rationale” & this is very true.
You cannot appease them, they won’t “change” and in the time after you leave them, you are in the most danger so make sure you have a good support network, keep a log of the date & time of incidents and make the police listen to you, don’t think you are overreacting or your ex partner will get bored in time & stop, they won’t. It only gets worse.

I LEFT HER 2 & A HALF YEARS AGO.

Please share this & sign my petition so this can never happen to another person & to raise awareness of stalking, harassment & domestic abuse in same sex couples.
There seems to be some wrong beliefs that just because we are the same gender, somehow we are less in danger.
This is NOT the case.

It’s too late for me but it could help victims in the future.
The police need to be accountable for their actions, as does my ex partner.

I strongly believe she has done this before and WILL do it again.