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Child Support Laws Are Unfair For Men

844 Signatures Goal: 1,000

Like many other fathers in the world I pay child support. I see fathers are bearing the burden of paying lots of money to their children without any proof of what the money is being spent on. I have no problem with paying child support. But how do I know the money is really being spent on my child. Are we fathers supposed to take the word of our childs mother no! does the court system take our word when we say we paided no! they want to see proof. Why is the burden of proof on the male and not the female are we all not equal. I purpose that a type of debit credit card is invented so that the childs money can monitored by someone. also I purpose that statments are sent to the childs father every month to ensure the childs father that the money is being spent on the child and not the childs mother. I also suppose that if the mother does not spend all the money for that child in that month the money should be returned to the father.

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  • Brad Cole
    Brad Cole United States, Canton
    Apr 29, 2016
    Apr 29, 2016
    I have all the same support costs as my ex, I provide a home, food, clothes, toys, etc. I have my son 3-4 days a week, I want to be able to give him the best life I can. She has a husband to help her, I have no one. Why should I have to kill myself working so much trying to afford to support my kids myself and paying to help her support them, when she doesnt work, sits on her butt all day, receives food stamps to cover groceries and has a husband to pay bills. Her financial burden on me is not fair, especially when she is the one that cheated on me and left me. Let me support my kids at my home and live my life with out having to pay her bills too.
  • James Williams
    James Williams United States, Newton Falls
    Mar 01, 2016
    Mar 01, 2016
    To whom it may concern,


    I am James Williams, father of two daughters who deserve better than what they have been given by their mother and the situation they have been forced into by the system.

    Time is running out for both them and I, as I have a pending court date for child support. At issue is the fact that I have ALWAYS supported my daughters, whether court ordered or not. This has never been in question by my daughters or anyone who knows them or me. I have them at my home several days per week, usually two full days and two partial days. Often, though, it is more. During the summer months and school vacations, they are often picked up by me from their mother’s residence the afternoon school lets out and dropped back off at their mother’s the evening before classes resume.

    In spite of paying child support for eight years, I also provided the things child support should have provided for my daughters, both at my own home and for them when at their mother's. Clothing, food, school supplies, birthday and Christmas presents, everything. Meanwhile, my child support dollars went, instead, to buy cell phones, video games, alcohol, tobacco and frequent visits to night clubs or bars for Mrs. Kovach. She obviously views it as my duty to support her, rather than our daughters. She has even gone so far as to nearly demand that I purchase beer for her and her live-in boyfriend on my way to drop the girls off. No mention, however, of anything Jocelynn or Kayleigh might need. Just beer for her and the boyfriend.

    Despite this, upon being laid off last year, I went to the Child Support Agency office in Ravenna where I was told that paying half per month would keep me above board until I could get back on my feet. This, of course, was false and the employee who told me this has denied it since. My driver's license has been suspended, further inhibiting my ability to earn income to replace that lost last year.

    Again, going to the Child Support Agency, I sought to have my payments reduced. Please keep in mind that I was materially supporting my daughters, as well as paying child support to their mother. The financial burden was severe and I sought to ease it while maintaining my support of them. Instead, my payment amount was increased to the agency “feeling” that I was capable of making more money than I currently am. It is not at all comforting to know that governmental offices are run by “feeling”.

    During this time I have been earning money repairing vintage and high-end audio equipment. This has been sufficient to support myself and daughters. It is not enough, however, to support my daughters twice. Once by child support and again directly when the money is spent on other things by their mother.

    While the pressing issue seems to be one of money and child support, that is merely a symptom of being taken to task by the legal system. The true issue has been, and should remain, doing what is best for my daughters. My daughters no longer wish to live with their mother, due to abuse and neglect. I and others have reported incidents to Children's Services, but nothing has been done. When they do show up, it is only after lengthy warning by phone and she is given time to put on a good show for them.

    In spite of Mrs. Kovach having custody and receiving child support, it is I who take them to doctor and dentist appointments, school meetings, Children's Advantage, eye doctor appointments, parent/teacher conferences, etc. There are several reasons for this, including outright refusal on her part to do so, unwillingness of others to deal with her aggressive and unstable behavior and inability of the school to contact her due to her refusal to update emergency contact information.

    This is merely a brief summary of the grief that my girls have been subjected to. Trying to shield them as much as I can from the chaos has worn me down and I am seeking any help you may be able to provide.


    Thank you for any possible assistance,


    James Williams
  • Victoria
    Victoria United States, Spring Hill
    Dec 28, 2015
    Dec 28, 2015
    Fix these laws! Justice for dads!!!! You've approved gay marriage it's time to approve justice for fathers!!
  • Deidre
    Deidre United States
    Mar 08, 2014
    Mar 08, 2014
    I understand that both parents decide to have a child but if the child is already being taken care of financially by one parent then why should we have to pay it especially if we are struggling to get by. I don't get assistance from the government and I have 2 special need children in my care my husband pays child support for his 10 year old and it gets deducted out of his check and now I have to pay out of pocket insurance costs for the two children that are living with me. If my husband didn't have to pay child support we could afford insurance through his work. My children need me and it's not fair because I could end up in jail for not having the money to pay child support. I'm a college student and I could also get dropped out of college for back child support my youngest is two and if I work half the money would go to day care and the other half to child support how are we suppose to survive? Do what's best for the children because my husband's 10 year old is fine her mom married a marine they got money they don't need the child support to go towards their bills all the time when we need it to survive. My 6 year old is also fine her father used to pay me 400 dollars for child support and when I lost custody that 400 dollars he could keep for himself she is healthy and she is also on her dad's insurance she doesn't need the money she has everything she needs and wants. If father's can get I pods and I pads with their own paycheck why should we pay them money if our children in our own household is suffering insurance, food, and clothes my other 2 children;s father's don't pay and I'm tired of hunting them down they quit their jobs all the time once they start noticing that the child support is being deducted from their checks and then my husband taxes are still being deducted for his 10 year old who is spoiled and gets government assistance. I feel that parents shouldn't pay all it does is cost tax payers more money and are license also gets suspended if we get to far behind how are we suppose to get to work? The system needs to change and if the parent does pay child support they should automatically get some sort of visitation.
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