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Name: John P Baker on Jul 1, 2006Comments:Flag
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Name: Allyce M Morris on Jul 1, 2006Comments: A good causeFlag
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Name: Anonymous on Jul 1, 2006Comments: I agree, each incident should be handled on a case by case basis.Flag
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Name: Lloyd Smouse Jr. on Jul 2, 2006Comments:Flag
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Name: Steve on Jul 4, 2006Comments:Flag
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Name: Doug Price on Jul 5, 2006Comments:Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Jul 13, 2006Comments:Flag
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Name: Gene Hoke on Jul 19, 2006Comments: The restraining order laws are a joke and the "hearings" are a sham.Flag
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Name: Lora K Hester on Aug 12, 2006Comments: I am a woman but it happened to meFlag
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Name: Anonymous on Aug 20, 2006Comments: I, too, am a victim. My wife chested on me and, when confronted with the evidence, hired a nasty lawyer, claimed harassment and I was out on my butt!!Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Oct 5, 2006Comments: Men are unfairly discriminated against in restraining orders.Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Nov 3, 2006Comments: I feel the law gives women the right to say and get away with just about anything, regardless of the truth, and men's rights are generally disregardedFlag
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Name: Thomas Baker on Nov 29, 2006Comments: I agree strongly regarding this issue. My girlfriend and I are planing on moving to seattle and we were informed that my ex-wife lives there with her sister now. I'm affraid I may end up with a restraining order if she were to see me on the street someday. She suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder and often convinces herself of her own lies. Needless to say she is a very unstable person.Flag
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Name: Tomas A. Sweet-reyes on Dec 25, 2006Comments: yes i agreeFlag
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Name: Brennon Reid on Dec 30, 2006Comments: Men and women should be equal. We, as men, deserve the same protection from the law that women do. I should not be able to be jailed or removed from my home without just cause.Flag
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Name: Terri Taylor on Jan 18, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: DuShunte Carmon on Feb 16, 2007Comments: This is ridiculous women are gtting away with murder...Flag
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Name: Stephanie Sheppard on Mar 13, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Spencer Shangkuan on Mar 16, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Mar 27, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Diane Bliss on Apr 3, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Taylor Morris on Apr 8, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Beatrice Youngs on Apr 9, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Apr 9, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Donald Stapelfeld on Apr 13, 2007Comments: My exwife has filed numerous retraining order, not only on me but others, under this same content. Men have rights too!Flag
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Name: Peter Kruczynski on Apr 15, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: David on Apr 21, 2007Comments: Eventhough SOME men are abusers, it doesn't mean that ALL men are guilty of "domestic violence".Flag
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Name: Scott Sidelinger on May 9, 2007Comments: i have a restraining for the first time in my life by a woman i havn't been with in 20 years just because I started preceedings to stop childsupport. And i now get to see what a joke the courts really are!! I have a clean record and never violent to anyone, but because she is mad I pay the price!Flag
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Name: David Fishbein on May 18, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: John D. Phelps on May 21, 2007Comments: These restraining order laws cause more harm than anything (slavery laws). They can't even protect the president. There are laws against assualt and battery and murder. A suicidal person is not going to be stopped by a restraining order. They drive people crazy.Flag
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Name: Mark Church on May 23, 2007Comments: mybrother in law is going thru this right now....Flag
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Name: Karina Rossel on May 31, 2007Comments: My husband has falsley been accused by his ex girlfriend. Shes just mad because he won't divorce me.Flag
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Name: Jeffrey Allen on Jun 9, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Lorraine Rodriguez on Jun 11, 2007Comments: My Brother has a restraining order against him for NO REASON whatsoever when the stalker is a woman and she put the restraining order on him and stalks him and stalks my family... and he lives on the far southside of illinois and she lives on the north side and has gone looking for him... when she did she came at him with a crowbar and ended up scratching his face... and he went to jail NOT HER... and when we tried to go to the police they said there was nothing that can be done even the district attorney said nothing can be done... the only thing that he can do is when she finds him... he has to go inside the house or any location he is at and call the police... tell me is this fair... he has to run everytime she finds him... i guess this is what you call justice... the stalker can put a restraining order on you and perform aggravated stalking and its your fault not theirs... what should i do... please help me...Flag
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Name: Steve Wilson on Jun 19, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Robert Jakini on Jun 19, 2007Comments: For my brother who is facing this gross injusticeFlag
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Name: Anonymous on Jun 21, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Timothy Ventry on Jun 22, 2007Comments: I too was a victim of this behavior. My wife threatened to have me removed from the home and did so under false accusations. She even got her parents to lie for her. She harbored my children for 14 weeks and still continues to fight the order of visitaton. She has been trying to alienate me from the children and often makes comments about me to them. I recorded my daughter stating "mommy slapped me then put ice on it" what the hell is wrong with our system. My wife claimed false alligations against me and here is the best part "no 911 calls ever" "no domestic violence calls" and she is the one who assults me " I have photos". But yet I get thrown out of my home. Ya ok genius! judges are erroring on the side of caution and this is bad for men who have vindictive wives who want it all. I have never put a hand on her in anger and love my children, she has destroyed my life and probally my childrens future. I feel helpless and dont know how to right this wrong and bring her to justice. The court ordered a CSB evaluation which came back "no treatment" and "negative for abuse" then my freinds and family testified against her. But somehow, she managed to get her way you know ill tell you.......she works for the system "she is a VA Arlington County probation officer" and I should of listened to her when she told me she could have me thrown out and the power she had ..blah blah blah blah. My did I have children with this women, that is my only regret. Sad and depressed with little hope. -TJVFlag
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Name: Jessica on Jun 24, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Josh Mosure on Jun 28, 2007Comments: I am in this situation. I live in Ohio, and My ex-wife filed a restraining order in one county for me taking a police officer to her boyfriends house to check on my daughter. The ex-wife later marries this man, moves to another county, and files to get one in that county as well. in the mean time, I was an assistant coach for my daughter's t-ball team, and the ex tells the police that i came within 200 feet of her. Where is the justice system hereFlag
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Name: Glen Fryfogle on Jun 28, 2007Comments: the rubber band has stretchedto its limit it does snap every day and for good reason it would be best to have a website with photos of dangerous women who destroy their husband and families and everyone connected to them this mindset startedwith abortion god have mercy wich is worse until these women feel the pain of thier criminal behavior THEY WILL NOT LEARN.Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Jun 28, 2007Comments: In California the law is absurd. My girl friend had lost her job and I was supporting her, paying her rent, bills, RO ... I foolishly, but thinking I was a nice thing to do, bought a gym account for her under my name. After we split, I told her not to worry about paying me back the rent money, ect.., but I did ask her return the contract, as I had foolishly left it at her place (I did not threaten her, use abusive words, ect...). She didn't respond, so I wrote her again. The response I got was a police officer serving me with a TRO. On the order she wrote "no abuse but refuses to stop contacting me." I was shocked, did not see it coming. The judge, a female, issued a RO for one year, again I was shocked. I never thought my ex would ever take a legal route! After I was served, I was confident I would win, the officer who served me even said he thought it was "weak." I didn't believe I was harassing her as I had reason to write her. She was still spending my money, we had sperated, and I wanted her to stop! My ex admitted there was no abuse or threats of abuse on the RO itself. She just didn't want to give up the gym that I was paying for. My attorney had to cancel the gym contract for me (expensive). My ex even went to the gym the day of our hearing, and I paid for it! Now I have civil liberties taken away for one year. Before this, I had only been guilty of a few traffic violations. I moved as far away from my ex as I could, because in CA. legally she can contact me, come to see me, ect.. But I can't talk to her or be near her. In other words, she could track me down and bait/force me to break the order and there is nothing I could do about it, and guess who would go to jail Me, not her! I'm scared to have relationships now, they are too dangerous! It is way too easy to put an RO on someone in CA. And it is unfair, because it works only one way and is not mutual. It is sad, because abuse does occur in relationships, and people who are abused should be protected, but more and more women I believe are taking something used to provide a form of protection to abused people, and using it to manipulate/ hurt their ex boyfriends for what ever reason. I am the one with a DVRO attached to my name. I am labeled as an abuser by the State of CA. and because of this label I feel victimized not only by my ex who took advantage of an unfair law for her own material gain, but also by the judge who issued the RO, the rules of the order itself being one-sided and putting me in danger of my ex and her malicious behavior, the state of CA. has also victimized me by not addressing the issue that DVROs are being passed out like candy, and should only be used when there is strong evidence of abuse, and most importantly that all ROs should be mutual preventing either party from seeking out the other, unless through the court itself (to retrieve property, ect...) My advice to all guys ending a relationship: This is sad to say, but it is better to err on the side of caution. Do not trust her! Keep the separation silent and quietly take all of your assets and possession to a safe place away from her before you end the relationship. If you have any contracts between the two of you, end them quietly before she knows of the separation. Once the separation occurs anything that you left at her place, count as gone and just cut your loses. If you suspect that she is going to end the relationship you must protect yourself and your possessions. Do so as quietly as you can no matter how bad it hurts. If you live together, take your stuff to a friend's. If she asks why, tell her you are loaning it to a friend, ect... You can always bring the stuff back if you work things out before a separation. Once you have separated, and you feel you want to try to get back together, see if she might return that favorite shirt you forgot, say hi to the children, call her from a pay phone, but do not leave a message. If she seems to be avoiding you, get a lawyer (a good one if you can) and do not contact your ex for any reason with out your lawyer's advice. If you can't get a lawyer, than you might not be able to afford a relationship. I trusted my ex, I felt she was a mature and kind person (otherwise I would not have been with her for as long as we were together) and I got slaughtered for it. If you suspect your ex acting maliciously, file a TRO on her before she can on you. Remember that day when things were great between you two, and she sent you three e-mails on the same day telling you how much she loved you. It made you feel good that day, but now you can use that against her in court as harassment (It works! scary hun). It is all the evidence you apparently need. Yes, I know this is low, but this is the way the law is set up. Is it unfair Yes!!! That is why the laws need to be changed, because it forces us to act like scum or risk loosing everything. If she files an RO on you first, you risk loosing your possessions, your liberties, your children, ect... Get a lawyer and attack her before she attacks you. This is a horribly sad thing to do to anyone, and I hope you find a healthier alternative than succumbing to this mentality, and avoid other ill people who act this way. Personally, I feel most of our legal system is awash and I am considering moving to Canada or Europe, where a million dollar law suite over a missing pair of pants (by a judge no less) never happens. Free health care too!!!Flag
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Name: Steve Ballem on Jul 5, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Jul 9, 2007Comments: THEY WILL NEVER STOP FALSE ALLEGATIONS. THEY MAKE TOO MUCH MONEY ON THEM. BASTARDS, THEY RUINED MY LIFE BUT THERE IS JUSTICE IN THIS WORLD..BELIEVE ME..I HAVE SEEN IT. THOSE WHO CAUSE YOU THESE HARMS WILL GET PUNISH EVEN IF IT ISN'T YOU DOING IT. A HIGHER POWEER WILL TAKE CARE OF YOU...BELIEVE AND IT WILLHAPPEN. I SEE MORE AND MORE PEOPLE WHO CAUSED ME HARM GETTING THEIRS...ITS AMAZINGFlag
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Name: Corey Friedemann on Jul 10, 2007Comments: My Wife has been emotionally abusing me for years, and running are families finances into the ground. shes lied to obtain TRO cause she wants custody of kids, house,and car. what ever happen to innocent until proven guilty where are these equal rights .Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Jul 27, 2007Comments: I am having almost the same problem such as John Baker . The people judgement but not the law that happen to me since .Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Jul 28, 2007Comments: TRUE UNLESS U THINK ITS OK TO BEET WOMANFlag
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Name: Luis Torres on Aug 2, 2007Comments:Flag
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Name: Anonymous on Aug 20, 2007Comments: Oh will god let this become a fact. In short what ever happened to falsefying a legal documentFlag
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Name: Amy Hegel on Aug 24, 2007Comments:Flag