The Child Support System is Unfair
The Vicious Cycle
Here is the set up, (that is not only unfair but hurtful to men that are
trying to be decent working fathers) The system gives women the right
to decide if SHE would like to keep a child. Then once she has an
order of support issued it is time for the father to start pinching
pennies. Or in some cases try to make money appear that they do not
have. There are countless men like my husband, who were living hand to
mouth, paycheck to paycheck before they found out about their order.
Then somehow they are supposed to be able to add on the cost of another
child when they are simply out of money. It isn\'t even a question of
want. When the money is not there, it still isn\'t there just because it
is needed. Some men have kids at their home and children they pay support for
Out of their home, if the child support declares that one child is due X amount
of dollars a month, shouldn\'t that same amount be due his other children for their
same needs
If one child receives lets say six hundred dollars a month and that leaves
NO money for the children at home. Furthermore, why should why
child\'s worth be more than another\'s. They should all receive the same,
but it is impossible to do so because there is not an endless amount of
money. In most situation a man paying child support, a man is lucky if
he even sees a dollar for himself.
This system is designed to punish men for the loss the government took
while supporting woman and children on the welfare system. What better
way to get it back, take it out on future fathers. Make men pay the
government along with the child and then leave him penniless or in jail.
If payment is not met on time, garnish his wages. Which then makes it
impossible for him to take care of his family & pay his bills, so he
has to apply for government assistance to be able to take care of his
family Or better yet... throw him in jail because now it is time to
punish tax payers. So now what do we have You have a man who had
limited means to get by, who can no longer afford his support order, is
thrown in jail, his family gets on welfare and his child is not getting
paid, and the tax payers get to pay for him to eat.
Who does this system work for
If all the men with unfair child support would stand together and
& refuse to work until their voice was heard, the jails would be
flooded and no one would benefit, but for some fathers it would be
worth it if it meant that people would open their eyes to the grave
injustice.
Where Do We Go From Here
I do feel that it is important to factor in all sides. Children are not
the problem. Although the office of child enforcement would like to say
they are already doing that. In a quote taken from the U.S. Department
of Health and Human Services it says on the matter of collecting
support \"we want to send the strongest possible message that parents
cannot walk away from their children.\" Shouldn\'t it read that FATHERS
cannot walk away from their children A woman can walk away when she
leaves her local abortion clinic.
So I am asking both woman, and men and government to understand the
harsh reality that there are too many men that working too hard and
at the end of a long and stressful work week are lucky if they can
save a dime, or even worse they are left with NO time to spend with the
child that receives the support. Support comes in many forms but with
a man it is usually in dollar signs. Not to say that the child is not
entitled to it but the mothers are not, nor is the government. The
system is punishing men for the governments interest on collecting
money that was lost in the past. We do not owe the government because my
husband has a child. We may owe a child but that is it. That is like
asking a woman to pay the government a percentage of her income to get
an abortion & pay a man what he feels his child was worth when she
aborted it. Maybe to a man that child was worth something and he didn\'t
get to choose to take care of it then. A woman can get pregnant and
tell a man she will get back to him on what role he will play in that
child\'s life, as to say this is all mine to decide.
Please sign if you feel a man should be entitled to his issues in a
court of law, and to have those concerns be looked into instead of
dismissed which majority of the time are. Each individual case is
different, not everyone fits into a \"formula.\" What about the
unexpected What if every dime for someone\'s paycheck goes to their
bills and then the remainder goes to support, what happens when their
hours at their job are cut back, what happens when their job does not
give sick days and a man is sick, he is forced to work because if he
did not go to work he could not afford his support & then ends up in