| # | First Name | Last Name | State | Country | Comments |
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| 701 | Rachel | Rivera | TX | US | |
| 702 | Debra | Williams | TX | US | I am also a parent who lost her son to an abusive parent. My son has been physically and mentally abused by his father. I originally had sole conservatorship because of physical abuse, etc., and then my ex took me back to court one year after the divorce for a 3 year custody battle. He not only received sole conservatorship, but I was also denied my right to medical, psychological, and school decision rights.
My ex tried to put a false protective order on me 8 days after receiving sole conservatorship. He dismissed it when he saw that I had evidence proving that he lied. Since then he has taken me back to court again, and I am on supervised visitation now.
When I had sole conservatorship, my son spent joint time with both parents at T-ball, and football games he was involved with, along his parents sharing involvement with him at his birthday parties and school activities. When I was able to see my son in an unsupervised situation, my son went roller skating each week, and attended church weekly with me. Now, my son is isolated, and being emotionally and mentally abused.
I don't know if he is being physically abused. My son had made outcries of physical abuse by his dad at age 5 and 6. He is 7 now. None of my son's documented outcries was shown to the judge during the 3-year custody battle. Therefore, my attorney committed neglect of a child or in other words failure to protect a child by not letting the judge see it. The same for the other attorney as I have evidence he was given the therapist notes also. After a $40,000 divorce hearing, and a $50,000 custody battle, I am now representing myself. The latest calls for my ex not obeying a court order to complete supervised visitation paperwork within 20 days. It is now going on 30 days, and next week I plan on filing against for contempt of the judges order.
Thank you for doing this petition. Family court was originally developed to protect mother's and children. It has gone astray, and we are no longer offered the protection as originally expected. |
| 703 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | My problem is different I am the noncust parent my exwife after brcoming divorced for the seconf time stared denying me visitation. She even moved and woulf not provide me witha residential address for my daughter so I could not even find her for three months. I do pay my child support and I pay it on time. However she tells my child I do not pay and I do not 'love her enough to visit or call her". She also changed her phone number to an unlisted number to break my contact. I finally got the adive of a lawyer and she said I should try to '"work out something with the mother or if it goes to court the judge my not approve" I am so upset with the state of Texas if I were behinsd in my CS they would take me to court for free for her. But the court ordered visitation is just not important to this state. I am at a loss as to how to proceed it has been since July 2007 since I last saw my daughter. |
| 704 | Delina | Feist | TX | US | I have been in an on going custody battle over my oldest daughter since 2001. It is now 2008! Her father and step-mother are known drug users. In 2001 we were granted joint custody with them as primary mostly due to the fact that I was only 20 and just starting out where as they were much older and at the time more supossidly 'stable'. He made a false CPS report in 2002 stating that I had purposely burned my 2yr old daughter with a cigerette, and that we beat her. I was 8mths pregnant with my 2nd daughter at the time and didn't even smoke cigs! CPS found it to be a false allegation and dropped it. However in 2005 CPS stepped in and found them guilty of neglect. They both failed drugs tests, possitive for meth. (The step-mom was 5mths pregnant when she failed!) CPS and the courts gave me custody with him recieving only supervised visitation. Then last year after having nothing to do with his daughter for over a year he made anouther false report to CPS stating that my husband and I were once again using drugs and beating the girls, again CPS investigated and found nothing. When that didn't work his mother payed for a 3rd lawyer for him to take me to court for full custody!! He hadn't EVER paid ANY of his measely $200 a mth child support, but can throw down thousands on an attorney!! Of course due to the messed up TX legal system they decided that yes he had been neglectful, yes he had done drugs, yes he has a horrible criminal background, but he never physically hurt our daughter and therefor granted him temporary weekend visitation! Well once again he still isn't happy with his visitation, he wants me out of the picture all together and will not stop untill that is accomplished. He is again making false alligations against my husband and I stating that once again we are beating her and using drugs! I am so tired of this, there has to be a change in the legal system. Its not right to be able to drag people in and out of court costing them valuble time and money anytime you want over false alligations and lies!! He and his family have put me through so much that I have started having panic attacks whenever I see or talk to them! Where are my rights? What about my daughters? The courts don't care about what this is doing to my children or my family! Something has to change, the way things are now I will be constantly in and out of court trying to prove myself to be a good parent untill my daughter is 18. I feel this is unacceptable! Why should I have to prove myself to him or anyone else? I have NO police record, no drug charges, never been in any kind of trouble at all and yet I am constantly being subjected to what I now consider harassment based off of his lies and alligations. He who has a long police/criminal record, has tested possitive and been arrested several times for drugs, and is constantly in and out of trouble never seems to have to prove anything. The courts just say he knows he has made mistakes and is working towards correcting them! WHY? The legal system is screwed up!! Something has to be done!! I am so lost and confused, I feel like its hopeless at times. I don't want to go through this forever! Its hurting my children, my family, my everything. |
| 705 | Amy | Wilkins | TX | US | My son was taken from me through court because I moved 120 miles from Houston. It was a 20 mile distance.My son is now 12 and wants to come home to us and live. His stepmom makes his life hell. I can't afford another attorney. What steps do I need to take? If anyone knows please e-mail me. |
| 706 | Wanda | Farmer | TX | US | THIS IS SO TRUE. I GLADLY SIGN. |
| 707 | Heather | Strother | TX | US | I wish there was something more that us stable parents could do .Me and my husband have custody of his 14 yr old son and he has 2 girls ages 6 and 11.The 11 yr old is with us until school is out but her mother signed a paper in front of a notary public that if she wants to remain with us she would allow her to.Well all thi changed 3 days ago because the mother needs her full amount of child support the 11 yr old was in tears.This ex wife has already in 9 months have moved these girls to 4 different school districts.The 11 yr old has seen more men than she can count come into the home for the night.I am really wanting to go back to court but it amazes me that 5000.00 is the cost for a child to have a stable and safe living enviroment.These children need to be loved and taken care of and when the father does what is right and has a stable loving home place them there.I can't see a Judge that would allow women like this to continue messing up the lives of their own children |
| 708 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | Three years, thousands of dollars, emotionally damaged chidren, and two false CPS reports later, yeah, . . . .it's time! |
| 709 | Lisa | Blair-Nunez | TX | US | |
| 710 | April | Gomez | TX | US | |
| 711 | Frank | Crook | TX | US | I believe the laws need to be changed. Currently I am in a custody battle for my three boys. I kept finding drug nedles in the house and since i cant catch her with them in her arm, there is not much i can do. CPS said( the last time i founs needles) that since she moved out 7 hours earlier, they cant say they are hers. She tried getting a protective order against me also. Said i threatend her. Seems to me like the laws are to help the criminals and not the kids. The good news is the police will run a dna and fingerprint test, but why is that needed. I have called the police on two occasions and turned the needles over to them. Once i found some and they told me if I took them to the station that I could be arrested. |
| 712 | Larry | Morrison | LA | US | |
| 713 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | Our children are made to feel they do not have a voice. Children are dying and hurt everyday, but the courts continually make the same mistakes continually. Who can hold judges and lawyers responsible? How sad of a country do we live in if a child has no voice. The state of Texas has proven to turn a blind eye on child abuse. |
| 714 | Anonymous | Anonymous | OH | US | I just moved here from Texas and my child is still in Texas. I am trying to get her up here with me but having a very hard time. Texas laws need to be changed. |
| 715 | Williams | Christine | TX | US | The judges now are controlled by bleeding hearts that don't allow them to truly judge. I voted for the one now handling my case (She has many years experience working in Women's Shelters) and still after 7 years post divorce my childrens father is allowed to emotionally, mentally and physically abuse the children and falsely charge me without any evidence only to drop the charges just before we walk into the court room so the child support gets eaten up with attorney fees and court costs. The system is broke and the children suffer. CPS shamed me for interfering with the children's relationship with their father when I stopped visitation because my daughter left me messages all over the house to find when I returned from dropping them off with their dad that stated he was going to kill them. The children have no voice even when you get counseling for them - The counselor testified in court that my daughter confided that her dad threatened to kill her and her brother if they told me what he does when they're with him and the judge had no response to that. She does nothing and I'm supposed to follow suit. My daughter has suffered further after that hearing when her dad rejected her for 6 mos. and when she would call him and he finally answered after several months attempts he acted as though he didn't know her. She surprisingly goes back for visits now and he's back to his old antics. She loves him dearly and he abuses that love by manipulating her. My son won't go back for visits after his dad chased him through the police station parking lot as though he were a disease infested rodent then pried my son from me and threw him in his vehicle hitting his head on the metal. We're going back to court in June. My bet is that if the judge can ignore death threats that this won't matter and most likely I'll be charged with contempt for not forcing my son to go back to his dad's for visitation. God Help Us! |
| 716 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | You all are absolutely correct in your reports
and assumptions. I also know - first hand - what the system is all about ! |
| 717 | tavius | jones | TX | US | where can we go from here |
| 718 | Anonymous | Anonymous | | | |
| 719 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | My ex-husband got joint custody and him as primary residence when our son was five. I was having a few problems that had to deal with being abused by him from what a counselor told me, but nothing where I deserved to lose my son over. He was abusive, slept around, went to jail several times, was a convicted felon, but none of that mattered. He did some really horrible things. It also didn't matter that our son had been with me for five years. I'll agree that he did display some change for the better but he didn't deserve our son. I got an attorney for a little bit but couldn't afford it. I had to give up and was completely heart broken. He had his employer Phil Dill Boats funding him. I finally had to sign the papers and my attorney made me sign something so I couldn't come back and sue him. The judge never heard anything. After reading some of the comments though I wonder if the Denton County System would have even listened. |
| 720 | Angela | Lavender Jarvis | TX | US | Someone posted on my behalf and made it sound like me but left it anonymous. I sign and hope with all my heart the custody laws in Texas change. I moved away in hopes to fight in a different state. It didn't work out. I have learned to deal with my bitterness. I doubt I will ever move back to Texas. I hope one day I am together with my son again. I have joint custody but I get the visitation. I don't know if Phil Dill Boats paid for my ex to get custody but I'm sure that they helped. I am sorry for my friend posting the company's name. She just feels badly for me. |
| 721 | Jennifer | Moffett | TX | US | |
| 722 | Sherman | Dodson | TX | US | My son is 13 years old and want to live me. His mom verbally and physically abuse him. I trying representing myself in court and no success. I take the blame for that because I wasn't truly prepared on all issues needed to defend my son. Nevertheless, I asked the judge if my son could come back and speak with him on his fear of his mother. The Judge replay, " You had your day in court." My son had signed the perference documentation to say he wanted to live him me, but a few days before the trail his mother forced him to sign another saying he preferred to stay with her. He was very upset over this. He is constantly being hit for something as simple as spilling milk. He is being grabbed in the face and head jurked back for not agreeing with his mother. He is being stripped of his individualality and robe of his self-esteem. Judges don't look at the complete environment and issues in most cases. |
| 723 | Anita | Housing | TX | US | |
| 724 | Julia | Cooper | KS | US | have a daughter in-law that has no reason for us not to see our only grandchild. She lies about things that could have put me in jail for a year but the judge seen this. She will find the littlest things to where I cannot see or have her to visit with us. She has told so many people she don't want me to have nothing to do with Sonny. We’ve gone through this for 6 years 5 times. We get it worked out. My son see's this and takes my side because he see's her lies, and cheating on him. ... All that bad stuff. He really does try. Amelia Maria Zvolanek-Cooper has a bad dangerous driving record in Texas and lost her liense for good in Kansas, has alot of warrants for her arrest in kansas, steal purses in Walmart in Salina and Denten Texas, steals from K-mart all time becausse they don't have no security system, abuses my son, steals his money. My grand daughter is being molested by one other friends, she takes my grand daughter to work with her at Justin’s subway on third shift,never straps her in her carseat, she is only 4 years old and she is the store manager there. I know Texas has a bad reputation about children being raped and kidnapped there a lot and they don't care so they are innocent bystanders an accessory thank you |
| 725 | carmen | mata | TX | US | what else do we have to do to change this laws in texas |
| 726 | Cecilia | Goodfellow | TX | US | The mother of my grandson was proven unfit, but still got custody and has continuoiusly violated the father's visition orders. The courts do nothing about unfit mothers denying fathers rights, and they endanger too many children. The system is blatantly anti-father! |
| 727 | Jennifer | Crowder | TX | US | My daughters dad was violent with me. He put me in the hospital @ 8 1/2 months pregnant. He has never put his hands on her. I need help. He is a deadbeat who has been to court and owes over $20,000 in child support. The court system has done nothing. No jail time! Nothing! Let's get the laws changed ASAP. |
| 728 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I'm married to man who is divorce and has one child from his previous marriage and I just want to say that there's good men out there who try to do the right thing and play by the rules and some women are just plain wrong and manipulate and use their kids to get what they want(what satifies them and not not what;s right for the child)... and that's wrong a mother should never use their children against the other parent that really affects them mentally and confuses them. It's hard when I see my husband and our daughter cry because his daughter from his previous marriage does not want to come with us because her mother said were not her family or her mother tells her her dad has his family he doesn't care nor love you anymore. Children are not objects and women who use their kids should not have custody of them... |
| 729 | Mary | Lee | TX | US | My ex pretty much abandoned his daughter. After 10 years of having to raise her on my own, his parents want her. With his best wishes they took my conspired to keep my daughter during summer visitation in 2005. They filed for custody, got a restraining order against me saying I abused my daughter, kept me from all communication for 4 months and after a year and a half, I get supervised visitation 278 miles from my home. In the mean time, my daughter tells me of horrible things I did to her and she seems truly convinced that I did these things to her. Neither of the grandparents have raised a child completely, the grandfather has an allocation by his own daughter that he molested her as a child, the grandmother has a documented history of mental instability, yet the court took hearsay as gospel and now I'm stuck defending mysself against these two. My ex is actually agreed in writing that he is not a suitable parent and custody should go to them. There should be more to taking a child away than what could be lies. My daughter should have gone to a non-biased party until this was sorted out. Not a party that had the ability to make her hate me. They should not be able to be so sneaky. Another issue, the cops should have to pursue a kidnap charge if it is made prior to a court filing. I called the cops, they fooled around and didn't locate my daughter for 3 days. Then they stopped when they were told by my ex that papers had been filed. Turns out, the papers were not filed for another 3 days. If they had followed through, I'd have my daughter and they would have been put in jail. Those laws need to change. |
| 730 | Angelia | Stewart | TX | US | Child Support laws protect the dead beat parents. The body of law is meant to protect those harmed. Protect the children! |
| 731 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | Hi! I'm trying to fight for the well being of my step daughter, she is 2 yrs. and is behind on her shots, has moved 6 times this year. she is always ill, we are close she calls me mommy, beautiful baby I love her very much but un the laws eyes I have no rights towards her but when she needs me I am there. She moved again I need help finding her. Please can someone help me. |
| 732 | Jody | Tyson | TX | US | |
| 733 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I am going through a divorce now and the system is extremely lop-sided when it comes to the father having a snowball's chance in hell of gaining conservatorship. |
| 734 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | After 20 years of abuse I finally got the nerve to tell him I wanted a divorce when the abuse turned towards my two teenage boys. I filed a police report when my ex threatened to kill me. The following Monday I went to the court house to file for divorce and was told I needed to get a lawyer. You cant find a lawyer without at least $2500 in your hand. They never told me I could file a restraining order or anything else against my husband. 7 days later I was handed a restraining order from the same sheriff dept that I filed my report with. I had to leave my children and home and turn them over to the same person that threatened my life and makes it a habit of knocking my kids around. My 16 year old son was in tears when he told the sherrif that he was afraid to be left alone with his father. She said "Sorry son, there is nothing I can do about it." It took me 3 months to get my children back and I can't even describe how devasting this was to me and the children. I called everyone I could think of to get help and nobody could care less. I asked the sherrif dept to do a well child check on the kids and they wouldn't. CPS is a joke. I finally contacted a womans shelter and they helped me find a lawyer.
If anyone is trying to get out of an abusive relationship contact a womans shelter! They deal with this every day and they know who to contact to get things moving. Make sure you tell them about any abuse you are going through. You dont have to stay at the shelter or in a safe house to get help.
Write your congressmen. Sooner or later they will see this is a serious issue.
I'm all for parents rights but the children need to be heard also. When a child tells someone they are afraid to be with someone they need to be listened to. |
| 735 | hollie | sellers | AZ | US | |
| 736 | David | Munoz | TX | US | Like everything in Texas all is backwards. Texas has a quote: "Bill of Rights" yet children are continiously forced (under the pretense that a child needs to keep in contact and still bond. That it is benefical in the long run.) How can being forced to be where you do not want to be , be beneficial physcoligically or otherwise. Also for summer visitation if the child does not want to stay the 30 or more days per court order they should not be forced to stay the whole time. Neither be forced to visit the standard visits. if they wish not to go. A child would be more receptive knowing they are not forced to go on certain dates and times |
| 737 | Deborah | Richards | TX | US | My grandchildren are verbally abused by their step dad and it is hurting them! My hands are tied because she won custody with my son only getting them every other weekend. They are precious kids, but the stepdad only cares about the child they had together. HELP |
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| 740 | Christina | Cater | TX | US | |
| 741 | Debra | Zepeda-Banda | TX | US | I would like to comment on the fact that I am an aunt who has been providing a safe haven for my nephews. I will soon have to face a battle on custody because both parents are fighting each other and using the boys to get at each other. I hope that our judicial system does not fail me in trying to provide a safe and loving home for my boys. |
| 742 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I have joint managing conservatorship but my ex-husband has primary residence. We had an abusive situation before our son and even while he was little but when we divorced I had no help or money to fight so he has our son and now our son is unhappy where he is. He is old enough to decide but he is scared of his father because he is mentally abusive. I have no way to fight it because I have been told you can't prove it. I am stuck. His dad promises to change to keep him and then goes back to his old ways. I have asked him for custody and he exploded. That was a bad idea! |
| 743 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 744 | j | d | TX | US | I feel that laws need to be in place for the protection of our children. Our children have gotten lost in the the courts. Judges need to give the RIGHTS TO THE CHILDREN AND RESPONSIBILTIES TO THE PARENTS. If you fail to be responsible towards your children, then your responsibilities should be taken away. |
| 745 | John | Guererro | TX | US | My husband was told that weven though his case was strong on the emotional abuse, lack of interest his ex girlfriend had for his son, but because he is in the Army he could not provide a stable environment for his son. His son's psychologist even testified that changing custody from his ex to him would be in the best interest of teh child, but the small town judge in Sinton Texas denied my husband's petition. Now we have 30 days to have another attorney look at helping us get an appeal and we are at a lost. I agree, new laws need to be in place. They started with parenting Cordinator's but what good are they is they have no say so in the decision in courts. It's basically a watse of money. California at least allows them to place their input into the cases. |
| 746 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I went through something similar to this my daughter was given to my ex, which had abandoned her and myself we had no where to go. he didn't care then he stole her and hid her for months then went to court with a family lawyer, Afriend of my (sister), told lie on top of lie, he didn't even know if the child had food, when I would ask him for help, he would always say he didn't care what happen to us. this was done because I moved on with my life. So he ended up with custody. Now he tells the child he doesn't love her, he just want the child support, leaves her for days alone, no food in the house, no lights, no gas. Abusive, addiction,guy lovers, all the time at the house over her,let's grown men take her away, and she has had to call me to come get her from their houses, I contacted CPS and they stated the child has to call, when she tries to call he wont let her use the phone, when she is alone in the house she cant get out he locks her in for the duration of his absence. Have call all the authorties no one seems to help, all I get is the run around, this is outrageous, and they say this was in the best interest for the child!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| 747 | Laura | Caballero | TX | US | I understand. The laws need to change. |
| 748 | David | Lanier | TX | US | I am a noncustodial father with joint custody of my daughter, the way texas laws are now leave it up to my ex as to when i see my daughter until she turns 3, it kills me inside everytime i go pick up my daughter and my ex has been telling her how big of a idiot i am. |
| 749 | Ulrike | Adams | TX | US | |
| 750 | Hector | Hernandez | TX | US | |
