| # | First Name | Last Name | State | Country | Comments |
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| 651 | Julie | Clark | TX | US | My childrens father pays nothing, calls only a couple times a year, is in and out of jail, yet he is still entitled to full rights? it is messed up, if I neglected my children like that the state would take them away, I guess it is ok to neglect them if you don't live with them. Now, my children want to change their name to have the name of the only family they have a relationship with and they are having a hard time! Something needs to be done to make these fathers be responsible, the children have a right to that, the fathers rights should be secondary. |
| 652 | Dawn | Haley | TX | US | Ok, I do not have issues with the environment of the noncustodial father, and I DO get regular child support. But I do have a problem with the "standard"!! My X does pay because his job withholds - but he does not see his kids at all! BH does not care enough to try to see his two daughters! What now? I do feel that his waste of my time and money by taking me back to court to reduce child support should have to be paid by him! He makes more than enough money - yet rather than see his daughters he would rather try to save money by dragging me back to court! Each time he loses! But this costs me money to get an attorney to defend ME! He is a loser! Anyone who will not take a second to think about their child IS A loser! Also, I disagree with the no pay - no see child, it is horrible for a mother to want their child to miss out on the love of another parent JUST because of MONEY! If there are reasons - like an unsafe environment, then of-course they should not be exposed. But if the child wants it's father (or mother) they should see them as often as possible. Unless it is not safe! |
| 653 | celeste | wofford | TX | US | |
| 654 | Fermin | Rocha | TX | US | |
| 655 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | | My husband and I have dealt with the same issues for almost 11 years now. My step son is now experiencing Severe Panic Disorder with Agoraphobia due to his biomom and nothing will be done because he is not physically damaged. The mental damage does not concern the court system. The biomom knows this is going on because of her who has also caused physical abuse and been ordered supervised visits for 6 months at a time on 3 diffrent occasions. She has been ordered to take parenting classes so many times, she could probably teach them but she still continues to abuse him. The phyiscal abuse has subdided because he is older now (almost 12) and knowing he will speak up but the mental abuse is still very damaging. Her recent attempt is telling him the devil will get inside him if he disobeys her. We are having to look into psychiatry to put him on medication just so that he can function better and be able to tolerate her on his weekends with her. How sad that he has to go through this because the courts do not care enough. We have learned that all we can do is LOVE him unconditionally and pick up the pieced when he returns. |
| 656 | Erin | Miranda | TX | US | |
| 657 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | These decisions should be made on a case by case basis. No child should be forced to visit a violent parent. And no parent should have to feel the helplessness of having to by law turn over their child to an abuser. |
| 658 | Anonymous | Anonymous | | | I do agree that the courts should focus on the facts of each case, it'll take more time to deal with each case but it's about the kids right? |
| 659 | Jason | Jarrett | TX | | |
| 660 | Stephanie | Kehborn | TX | US | I agree my step-son has visitation with his mother who gave him medication that could have killed him when we had a Doctor saying he did not need it and it was medication that could not be stopped without taking him off slowly or can kill them! Then she lied and told us she had not given it to him. Then came back and said "I only gave it to him for two days" and we were told we could not get supervised visitation! Oh and that was after she had him lie to Doctors so they would diagnose him as Bipolar. And also had him placed in a Psyic Hospital without telling us for a week! This poor child has been through so much it is so not fair that he has to go for unsupervised visits! It is also so scary for us to think what is she going to pull next with him! |
| 661 | Rob | Kessler | TX | US | If children are our most valuable asset, then we must fight for change to the laws that do not protect their rights or best interest... |
| 662 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 663 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I would love the Texas laws to be changed as I lost custody of my children over 3 years ago due to the false allegations of the step mother. I will do everything I can to help others as well as myself to get their child(ren) rightfully back to them. |
| 664 | Anonymous | Anonymous | AR | US | A friend of mine had her children taken away because of false aligations, the law needs to be changed! |
| 665 | Anonymous | Anonymous | VA | US | An issue as important as this should be given the utmost consideration. I cringe to think of all of the children who are in a bad situation due to poor or lack of good judgment on the part of the judicial system. |
| 666 | Jennifer | Cook | WA | US | |
| 667 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | My daughter is involved in a custody battle over her 20mo. old son. The father did not care to be in the childs life until after she filed for child support and then he sued for full custody at the urging of his girlfriend because of her desire to have a baby.She is present at all visitations when the child is taken for his unsupervised visitations and she is calling herself Mommy to the child and advertising to others that this child belongs to her and her fiance. It seems there is nothing we can do to whom is allowed to be part of our grandsons life. |
| 668 | Clarence | Phillips | TX | US | I feel that the laws should be changed and made to be more fair toward the fathers who truly love their children and want to be a vital part of their children lives. |
| 669 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 670 | Emily | Ghadimi | AL | US | I read several of the stories on here, and I want to tell you all that I feel your pain. I have been going through a child custody battle since my son was born. He is almost two years old now. The law makes me want to puke. My son's father uses and sells drugs. One of his many ex girlfriends even made a deposition to my lawer about things that went on when my son had to go see his father. She said he took drugs and drove a car with my son in it. He used and sold drugs around my son. My baby wasn't even a year old when these things happened. He was forced into a dangerous environment by a completely incompatent system. The judges don't care whose life they are ruining when they make decisions like this. They are too lazy to examine each individual case. There should be no such thing as standard visitation, because each case is different. |
| 671 | Emily | Ghadimi | AL | US | I read several of the stories on here, and I want to tell you all that I feel your pain. I have been going through a child custody battle since my son was born. He is almost two years old now. The law makes me want to puke. My son's father uses and sells drugs. One of his many ex girlfriends even made a deposition to my lawer about things that went on when my son had to go see his father. She said he took drugs and drove a car with my son in it. He used and sold drugs around my son. My baby wasn't even a year old when these things happened. He was forced into a dangerous environment by a completely incompatent system. The judges don't care whose life they are ruining when they make decisions like this. They are too lazy to examine each individual case. There should be no such thing as standard visitation, because each case is different. |
| 672 | Michelle | Easter | TX | US | I agree. Our children are not protected! I am going through custody case right now where the social worker took dad at his word over me & yet I had documented evidence of several child endangerment situations he put her in & on medical neglect. He tries to bribe her, brainwash her & manipulate her. He is trying to alienate her from me. I took her to counseling, all the signs of alienation are there & stress, anger, etc from the situation & yet I get accused of manipulation. I am the one who has taken care of her medical needs, prescriptions, etc. They finally diagnosed her to have asthma, allergies, & she is frequently sick & I have to take her to doctor on average every other month. Dad refuses to give her the medications that I provide. He even confessed that with this social worker that wants to give him custody. And because I took her to counseling, & to the doctor when she is sick, this social worker wants to pull my medical & educational rights away from me. Can anyone tell me whats wrong with this picture??? Anyone else have this same problem with social worker??? I have documentation on everything to support my case, he does not. The social worker did not investigate completely to find out all the facts. She made false allegations against me in the report which really hurt me on my case. But I have so much evidence that will prove the opposite of her report. And it would prove that she made false claims & allegations against me. Since then my daughters attorney decided this case was so confusing that she just went on social workers decision. But we have had 3 psychologicals with 2 different psychologist who say it is in my daughters best interest to be with me. On top of all the neglect & child endangerment. Why did they totally disregard psychologists opinion?
Do social workers really have that much control over our childrens lives??? Why aren't they held to a higher standard to actually investigate all the facts??? From most of the cases I have been reading on the internet, most of the problems with neglectful or abusive parents receiving custody has been the social workers decision. Not bashing anyone but are they properly trained anymore?
Seems alot of them are putting children in harmful situations. Why don't they use facts & whats best for the children? I been reading alot of terrible things on these cases & most are so unjust! My heart goes out to all of you. May God Bless & keep all of you & your children.
HOW can we fight back? Anyone suing social worker for malpractice right now? |
| 673 | suzanne | griffith | | | |
| 674 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | My son is going thru a divorce after his wife took the child and moved 560 miles away. Now my son has to pay 500/mth child support and each visit to see his daughter costs 200 dollars. He didn't want the divorce, but she gets the child and child support. I'd like to see the child support scale be changed to a more appropriate amount. A person who makes $30,000 per year gross, pays the same as someone who makes $60,000. My son makes $36,000 and barely makes ends meet even without child support. Now he will have to get a second job just to keep from loosing his house due to child support being so high. The scale really needs to take into account the living expenses of the parent and make adjustments according to each individual case and not just have a set amount for all cases. And I agree that the husband should be able to get the child. What makes it fair for the wife to take a child hundreds of miles away from the dad, and then give him all the burden for long distant visitation and child support? Laws need to be fair for both parents. |
| 675 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | I am a father that is dealing with a mother that takes no part in the daily lives of her children. She will also go months without speaking to them. However, she will not release her rights so my wife, who does care for them, can adopt them. |
| 676 | Michelle | Smith | NE | US | |
| 677 | Roberta | Wines | TX | US | |
| 678 | Roberta | Wines | TX | US | |
| 679 | Cindy | Richardson | TX | US | |
| 680 | Anonymous | Anonymous | | | |
| 681 | Anonymous | Anonymous | WI | | |
| 682 | Marianne | Czerniejewski | NY | US | |
| 683 | Alaina | Bates | TX | US | |
| 684 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | i agree we have to do something I am currently fighting for my children who are abused by their father and our battle has lasted almost a year I have proof and pictures the judge looks the other way!!!! THIS MUST STOP!!!! |
| 685 | Sharon | Layton | TX | US | We have to take back our courts and put "justice" back into the "justice system" as there certainly is very little of it present there now--especially for our kids. See www.nojusticeforchildren.com |
| 686 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 687 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 688 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 689 | Shawn Marie | Krencik | IN | US | Child abuse I'll admit is a rapidly growing epidemic but when families such as mine are allowed to be torn apart because of FALSE ALLEGATIONS someone has got to step in. I have been in an ongoing court battle with my, well let's just say he was my father and his wife, NOT my mother by the way for the return of my daughter. You see it just so happened that I was in a really bad place in my life in 2006. My marriage had broken up. I was out of a job and had four children to care for. My oldest son went to his father in Columbus, OH. My two little ones were kept from me in Illinois since June and it was August. My dad had called offering his help to care for my now nine year old daughter for the school year and, painfully, I accepted. I thought that it was a legitimate offer. He said that I could go to Texas and pick her up at the end of the school year. Then, around Christmas, things got painfully worse. My daughter started being too busy to talk to me. His wife told me that I could not send her Christmas presents or anything because it would be thrown away. My daughter is telling my now eight year old son that I don't love her because I haven't sent her birthday or Christmas presents. He tells her that I have a whole pile of presents in my closet just waiting for her and that I love her more than anything. When I went in June after school let out to pick her up they refused to give her to me because of my fiancee. He's younger than me and they don't agree with the relationship. While I was there in Texas they called my mom and asked her only if I had a job and if I was still with him. My daughter had to whisper to me that she loved me and wanted to come home. They would not take their eyes off of her and they looked at her when she hugged me as if she did something wrong. I returned to Indiana childless. I have my Indiana divorce decree saying that I have legal custody of my daughter and have since 2001 but when I gave it to the cop there he said that Texas did not recognize it and if they didn't want to return her they didn't have to. They had her for almost a year before, in June 2007, they filed for custody of her stating that I abused her and so did my fiancee when she lived wih us. NO STATE ORGANIZATIONS for child abuse were involved. NO INVESTIGATION was ever done! They said we never had food and that she was failing school. My daughter was ALWAYS an honor roll student while living with me. It wasn't until she went to them that she almost failed third grade. None of my children ever lived with me and my fiancee. I didn't live with him until September 2007. I was on food stamps and the kids were on Medicaid and also on the breakfast and lunch program at school so they always ate. I would threaten to send the kids to bed without dinner but always got them up to eat. What parent hasn't said "You're going to bed without dinner if you don't stop"? I can prove all of their allegations untrue but the problem is when the judge heard "Child abuse" that was it. It was basically all over for me. The judge in Texas ruled that I pay medical support and can see and talk to her when my dad feels it is a good time. I am not allowed to be involved in any other aspect of her life. They never even gave me a chance to fight and I can actually prove them wrong. The State of Texas helped my father LEGALLY KIDNAP my little girl. I have an attorney here in Indiana and we have been fighting it from here because of this being the original state where custody was established. They say nothing has changed. I still have custody. I'm not really looking for anything but to maybe get my story heard. Maybe someone might have some good advice. A step or avenue I may have missed in this ongoing torture. Please! I haven't been able to speak to my daughter since June 10, 2007. I never even got to say goodbye! I may not live in Texas but that is where I am being victimized and it HAS GOT TO STOP! |
| 690 | Elsa | Perez | TX | | |
| 691 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | |
| 692 | Karen | Cruz | TX | US | My stepson is suffering from PAS his mother is just the worst and has even threatend the lives of my children who our 4 and 2. All this woman cares about is childsupport money and sticking it to my husband who has done nothing but try to be a father to his son. This woman purposely got pregnant and went back to her lesbian lover.Her lover wanted nothing to do with her after she had been with a man. My husband left New York to help raise his son here in Texas.Lilly continued to use drugs have both woman and men sexual partners,started living with another woman and tried to get my husband her then boyfriend to sign his rights away as the father so her girlfriend could be the DADDY. My husband put himself on childsupport to get some sort of visitations and rights is the lie that they told him. They told him that a dna test was not nessasary just to sign the papers since she had put him on the birth certificate as the father. He did and they screwed him and my family ever since. They setb back arrears at over 10,000 to start and he used to give her cash all the time big mistake allways have reciepts to proove that you pay a person.He did have wittnesses but they did not care about that. The interest builds and builds on arrears even though you pay your support monthly,his taxes are garnished each year. He has lost places to live and cars. My children almost got the Medicaid that they are on taken away.My husbands company failed to thrive and suffered a huge loss,as a resuld he was supposed to get back 11,000 dollars in taxes and they garnished every penny including the H and R block fee we are supposed to pay for having them do our taxes. I fought back this year by filling out the injured spouse tax application they have been making life a living hell because of that.I could go on and on. THe bottom line is that the mother won't even let my husband see him or talk to him on the phone ever. He goes to pick him up he is not there. They will not do anything to help us see him even though they are supposed to have joint custody of the 14 year old.I have wittnessed this woman drunk and picking up her son I have seen this woman on cocain her son has been in and out of Juvi for beating her up after she instigated the fights with him. It is an outrage that nothing can be done and sadly he the child is just another statistic because of court systems who could
careless.The so called family courts destroy families they sure do not bring them together and the State of Texas is by far one of the most corrupt one I have seen had to deal with and have heard of.... |
| 693 | Mary Catherine | Anderson | TX | US | |
| 694 | Katherine K | Jury | KS | US | My son lives in Granbury TX and the mother of his son there is still married to another man, so she didn't put my son down as the father even though the child is named after him and carries his last name. She torture my son but telling hiim if he pays her money what ever she asks for he can see his son and then after she gets the money she refuses him visitation. He wants to take it to court, Texas bleeds the fathers dry and never even considers the mothers income. She refuse to work and goes from one to the next right after destroying each one financially or in any other manner. She has three child by three fathers and the two younger ones neither father is list on the birth certificate becasue she is still married. She has stated in writing and signed that she has been common law married to my son for 2 1/2 years, they have filed joint tax returns 4 times and she takes the money. These type of women need to be stopped. My son is a very good father and deserves to be with his son. |
| 695 | Renee | Nickolson | AL | US | I need help knowing what to do to change custody laws in ala. and Florida. Also the rights of grandparents should be concidered on a case to case bases. There are a large no. of grandparents raising the grandchildren and then the parents take the child or children and run off to another state . This can not be good for the children involved to be riped away from the only safe invirorment they have ever known, possibly never to be seen again. Most of the time when this happens the parents are only using the children against each other. Leaving unrepairable damage. We and our son are in a fight now . We are in Alabama, my grandson was born and raised in Al. he is now 7, his mother up and took him to florida and wonts to erase us from his life, we are heart broken and so is he. This is the same thing her mother did to her fathers family at about the same age. They were intemidated by these people, and got tired of letting them see their granddaughter and then go years and stay away and never no why. they have never met my grandson which is their great grandson. Please if anyone can help me, at least to know what to do to change the laws. Please e-mail me. |
| 696 | Anonymous | Anonymous | TX | US | After my 3 oldest children made disclosures of sexual abuse by their father, the judge ignored their testimony AND the stated and continued stated preference of my youngest daughter and awarded him full custody of my 14 year old daughter - WITH SUPERVISED VISITATION FOR ME. How it is that the abuser gets custody and the parent who tries to protect has only supervised contact is truly obscene. Unfortunately with Texas Family Court judges being elected on a partisan basis there is no way of assuring we have a competent judiciary. |
| 697 | Patrick | McClellan | OH | US | I was taken away from my mom in texas, They toke me away because my mom didnt have a house, so she gave us to children services and they promised to give us back to her in 2 weeks I was In cps care for 6 Years I am now 17 years old in the state of ohio you can say I want to go live with my mom. My sisters hate my mom my sisters are 20 and 24 and they both hate her becuse they thote she was just gunna leave us there she foght for 6 years and then she married her husbend Steven age 45 multi-milliondaller lawer and hes the one that pulled the stings to let me say I can live with my mom.
TEXAS NEEDS TOO BE STOPED THERE LAWS IN ARE VERY MESSED UP!!
I support this 150% |
| 698 | Brandie | Nealey | TX | US | I have cerebral palsy. My ex took my children from me and now I am being told I wont be able to get them back unless I can come up with $1500 for a lawyer or get through one of these legal aid programs, which seems impossible. The childrens dad did not work and what is ultimately ended the relationship because we were getting evicted. I am a hands on mother and the 3 weeks I have been seperated from my children is horrific. Something has to be done to HELP! I have tried to work out anything.. exactly equal custody for both of us, or me with primary and him with the full extent of ncp. Childsupport has a mediation setup but I am being told if I go to that I will lose custody because they automatically give it to whoever has the children. I am also being told after a year there wont be much I can do to change the order without due cause. He wouldnt abuse his children he would just push me to the side or out of his way to get them. My children are my life... DESPRITE in Grand Prairie TX |
| 699 | Dustin | Huffman | TX | | |
| 700 | Christie | Lindig | TX | | I have been thru the court system trying to protect my son too many times! Everytime I go no one would listen to me they only listened to my attorney, who by the way was fighting for my ex! I just screamed at my attorney and he got so angry with me he slamed the courthouse door which had glass and almost broke it. You could hear the door slam and me yelling at him thru the whole coufthouse! A horrific scene I don't ever want to go thru again or anyone in my shoes. |
